Let Your Parents Make the Important Decisions in Your Life
Let your
parents make essential decisions in your life, especially something as
significant as marriage. Marriage isn’t a one- or two-day event; it’s a
lifelong commitment. Since our parents are more experienced in such matters
than we are, it’s better to entrust these decisions to them and live a
hassle-free life.
Those who
try to make such life decisions on their own—particularly when it comes to
marriage—are more prone to mistakes. At that age, the mind tends to be like a
free-flying bird—driven more by emotion than reason. As a result, people often
fail to distinguish between right and wrong, or good and bad. So, in the
context of Bangladesh, it’s wise to leave the decision of marriage to one’s
parents.
That said,
parents also have some responsibilities in this regard. When they consider a
marriage for their child, they should ask whether the child has any
preferences. Even if there isn’t someone specific in mind, it’s important to
ask whether the child approves of the person being suggested as a lifelong
partner.
It’s
especially advisable to marry off sons as early as possible. Girls are
considered less likely to go astray, while boys experience stronger physical
and emotional urges during adolescence and beyond. Therefore, parents should
start thinking about marriage for their sons as soon as they reach puberty.
Believe it or not, many social issues—such as eve-teasing, sexual assault, and
pornography addiction—could diminish if boys were married after puberty.
Do you
know why our grandparents were so happy? Because right after stepping into
youth, they had someone of their own—someone just for them. There was no fear
of losing that person, no need to hide the relationship from society.
Always
remember: “Your parents will choose the best option for you.”
